October 16, 2017
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A Careful Grace: Accountability for Sex Offenders in the Church
by Bos Tchividjian
Many churches are faced with a terribly difficult dilemma of what to do when a sex offender wants to become part of the church community. In my experience, most churches have little to no understanding of the many complex issues related to such a decision. As a result, churches often make decisions that result in great harm to the children and abuse survivors in the congregation.
How to Deal with Ex-Sex-Offenders
by Bill Price
Develop a policy in the context of discipleship and full reconciliation.
“Frank” arrived at our Celebrate Recovery meeting on Friday night for his first visit. He looked vaguely familiar to a few members who became suddenly alarmed when they recalled seeing his face on the evening news several nights before.
Frank had recently been released from prison, labeled a Level III Sex Offender (L3SO), and the community was warned of his presence via the local newscast. Church members’ concern over Frank’s presence grew to the level that the ministry leaders approached Frank and asked him to leave the premises. This was done graciously, and perhaps anticipating their response, Frank agreed to leave. It was Thanksgiving weekend when one of my staff called to alert me to a growing firestorm. The director of the local ministry to ex-offenders, a ministry with whom our church has very close ties, was very upset.
Trying to Get Sober? Alcohol Treatment Navigator
WASHINGTON (AP) — The phone calls come — from fellow scientists and desperate strangers — with a single question for the alcohol chief at the National Institutes of Health: Where can my loved one find good care to get sober?
Tuesday, the government is releasing a novel online tool to help — directories of alcohol treatment providers paired with key questions patients should ask for a better shot at high-quality care.
"Most people think treatment is detox for 28 days or Alcoholics Anonymous. There's a vast in-between," said George Koob, director of NIH's National Institute on Alcohol Abuse and Alcoholism.
More than 15 million adults in the U.S. have what's called alcohol use disorder, meaning they either misuse or are addicted to alcohol, and fewer than 10 percent get treatment, according to federal estimates.
Many who do get treated don't receive quality care that best fits their needs, Koob said. He ordered development of the Alcohol Treatment Navigator after realizing if medical professionals were confused, families must be lost.
“Kindness is a language which the deaf can hear and the blind can see.”
A 5-Minute Mindful Breathing Practice to Restore Your Attention
by Mark Bertin
Returning to the breath, again and again, when the mind has wandered—that's how we train our attention. Our attention will always wander—that’s what it does. That’s normal, and always going to be part of our experience—both in meditation, and in life.
Audio Mediation Here ...
Thomas Merton on Being a Mystic
by Richard Rohr
Scott Peck explains that Merton “‘left the world’ for the monastery . . . because he was afraid of being contaminated by the world’s institutionalized evil. . . . [But he] continued to consistently and passionately protest the sins of greater society. This burning desire to be in the world but not of the world is the mark of a contemplative.”  James Finley, who learned from Merton for six years as a monk in Gethsemani, says Merton would tell him, “We don’t come to the monastery to get away from suffering; we come to hold the suffering of all the world.”  This can only be done by plugging into a larger consciousness through contemplation. No longer focused on our individual private perfection—or what Merton called “our personal salvation project”—we become fully usable by God.
Merton wrote, “Paradoxically, I have found peace because I have always been dissatisfied. My moments of depression and despair turn out to be renewals, new beginnings. . . . All life tends to grow like this, in mystery inscaped with paradox and contradiction, yet centered, in its very heart, on the divine mercy . . . and the realization of the ‘new life’ that is in us who believe, by the gift of the Holy Spirit.” 
It was in the power of this Spirit that Merton struggled against “the evil [that is also] in us all . . . [and] the blindness of a world that wants to end itself.” He fought against violence, war, racism, poverty, and consumerism. He said, “Those who continue to struggle are at peace. If God wills, they can pacify the world.” View online ...
The Program in Pastoral Care and Counseling encourages the spiritual formation of our pastors believing a strong spiritual base is the greatest resource a church leader can possess. It helps us weather the many storms of ministry and deepens the incredible joys ministry provides. Following is a list of Spiritual Directors in our area. We encourage you to take advantage of this rich resource. This listing will appear in each edition of our bi-monthly webpage updates and new names and contact information will be provided as we learn of them and have permission to include them. If you are a director or know of a director that is not included here please let us know.
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5 Surprising Reasons You're Not Losing Weight,
Having trouble slimming down? One of these sneaky weight-loss saboteurs may be to blame. Here's how to work around them.
You've done all the right things: dieted, exercised, maybe even tried a cleanse or two. And maybe you've been successful in losing some weight, but not as much as you'd hoped. Sure, you can blame it on a slowing metabolism and shifting hormones, though truthfully, haven't you always suspected there's more to it than that?
We have, too, which is why we parsed the scientific literature to see if there might be other reasons so many people over 50 can't seem to lose the extra pounds. We found five possible culprits — but thankfully, we also found a few simple ways to increase your odds of losing weight.
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